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They are also raised with strong family and community values, so there is a sense of responsibility and accountability for others, not just for the self.

American culture raises children to be fiercely independent and to look out for ‘number one’.

American men will rush to get you in bed as quick as possible, while European men don’t appear to have the same rush (or desperation). European men don’t ‘date’ – in the formal way that Americans are used to.

The types of dates seen in movies – the formal ask, the fancy dinner and the entire dance that ensues simply doesn’t exist in the European mindset, in fact, the word “dating” isn’t even a part of their lexicon. Unlike American culture, where there’s almost a rite of passage which takes two people from “hooking up” to “seeing each other” to “dating” to “exclusive”, these labels just aren’t a focus or concern for European men. Rather, the mentality is, “I like you, I want to see you, and if it’s enjoyable, let’s keep seeing each other”.

Now, when I discuss the differences between European and American, I’m referring to a mindset. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid.

You can very well be born in America but have a more “European” mindset and vice versa. Perhaps this ‘score mentality’ is for bragging rights, perhaps it’s for validation so they can feel wanted and desired, or perhaps it’s a pure ego play.

This breeds a generation of men who have habits of looking after their own needs versus the needs of the collective. Europeans don’t get their sexual education from porn. European men have a different perception of beauty.

For example, in the Netherlands, comprehensive sexuality education starts at age four. Instead of cruelly dismissing someone by disappearing, they communicate that they are not interested. As the media in Europe is a lot more heavily monitored, Europeans grow up surrounded by media and images of women who are curvy, comfortable in their own skin, and sensual (versus overly sexualized).

So before you allow yourself to be swept into a sea of ‘s, here are a few things you should expect.

Don’t be surprised if a French man pushes for monogamy early.

They grow up developing friendships with the opposite sex and in turn, develop more empathy and understanding of the opposite sex.

In American culture, there is a clear segregation of the sexes, boys play with boys and do boy things and girls do the same.

Do get ready to hear “Je t’aime.” As French men are fast moving in relationships, you could be dating one for only a few weeks before you hear these magical words.

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